Exercise: Healing Your Shame
Pull out your journal
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Good Day Loves.
Today’s newsletter addresses the next step in solidifying your worth: healing your shame! This is a critical part in reconnecting to your inherent worth. Please take your time with this and come back as many times as you need to fully address every bit of shame lurking within you.
Please note that these lessons will be released bi-monthly because these exercises go very deep. If you want real results, you must be willing to put in the time to go deep. And since we all have busy lives with jobs, kids, relationships etc - I don’t want you to feel rushed to complete these exercises and not do them properly. Whatever you fully heal now will never have to be looked at again! Remember that.
If you missed the last few newsletters sharing the Worthy As F*ck course, you can catch up here:
What Caused This Epidemic of Low Worth?
Exercise: Uncovering Your Shame
Note: All Exercises (which is the true meat of this course) are paid content so if you haven’t upgraded to a paid subscription yet (cheaper than a cup of coffee), now’s your chance.
Alright, let’s get back to it.
Once you’ve uncovered your shame, the next step is to go through your list and ask yourself: what can be fixed, and what must be accepted?
We fix what can be fixed and we choose, choose being the operative word here, to accept what can’t be fixed.
Why? Because to continue resisting that which cannot be changed is the definition of madness as well as masochism. Why continue to suffer when you can choose peace instead?
How do we know when something can be fixed and when it cannot?
Well it’s certainly not black and white, but the gist of it is: if it’s something you have control of - then you can fix it.
For example, when our shame centers around an incident with another person in which we behaved poorly, out of integrity or were unkind - then we can take loving action in order to heal this shame: we can make amends.
My first year of college I befriended this beautiful girl who happened to harbor a lot of insecurity within her, which manifested as constant criticism of other people. Of course, at the time, I didn’t connect the dots between her perpetual judgment of others and her self-worth. I just noticed that being in her presence as she passed judgment left, right and center on our peers, felt yuck.